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Alcoholic Families: Reality cannot be named

According to Sheinberg and Frankel: ”A hallmark of the experience of incest is the maelstrom of intense confusion and contradiction felt by children and their families.” (2002)

The victim is placed in a double bind made all the more intolerable because it cannot be escaped, and reality cannot be named and discussed.

An additional bind, the triple bind, occurs when the victim gets blamed for daring to voice reality by naming the incest and identifying a member of the nuclear or extended family as its perpetrator.

From Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy by Christine A. Courtois

The *exact* same applies to alcoholic families:

”reality cannot be named and discussed.”

”the victim gets blamed for daring to voice reality.”

Anne Townsend, Writer & Researcher, Incest Footprint#


photos by anne townsend, northern cape, 2019




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