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Anne Townsend

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Alcoholic Family: Deny what is happening.

The incest family develops a series of messages or rules for members to follow to protect the family.

Many of these overlap with messages found in the alcoholic family.

The most predominant of these messages are:

1. Don’t feel. Keep your feelings in check. Do not show your feelings, especially anger.
2. Be in control at all times. Do not show weakness. Do not ask for help.
3. Deny what is really happening. Disbelieve your own senses/perceptions. Lie to yourself and to others.
4. Don’t trust yourself or anyone else. No one is trustworthy.
5. Keep the secret. If you tell you will not be believed and you will not get help.
6. Be ashamed of yourself. You are to blame for everything.

From Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy by Christine A. Courtois

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photos by anne townsend, northern cape, 2019



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